If you wonder why am I so quick to cut off people..
The story always goes back to my traumatic “hacking saga”.
I once had a lottt of friends.. who I have tolerated their flaws.
I had text/calls every weeekend, & had a best friend called Terie too. She was a bitch, but bc she was fun, I had tolerate her flaws.
TLDR is when I was facing the worst experience of my life, I realised I didn’t trust ANY of those peers to keep this under wrap. I didn’t tell a soul.
I had only called Terie bc she was then dating a lawyer, and I wanted his thoughts on it.
Guess what? She told me she’s busy having a holiday & even tho it was very time sensitive, she told me not to “disturb her” until she’s done with her holiday.
Lucky for me I met a few good & intelligent souls who picked up the pieces with me.
Until today that experience has been very traumatic, & when I face bad behaviour from new peers, I ask myself if that situation happens again, would I trust them?
1) Can they be trusted?
2) will they pick up the pieces with me? Or at least try to help a tiny bit?
Or will they just hang up and say oh.. so sorry..
If i think their answer is “oh so sorry” then my answer to their bad behavior will also be.. “I’m so sorry…. I’m not going to try to keep you too.”
The story always goes back to my traumatic “hacking saga”.
I once had a lottt of friends.. who I have tolerated their flaws.
I had text/calls every weeekend, & had a best friend called Terie too. She was a bitch, but bc she was fun, I had tolerate her flaws.
TLDR is when I was facing the worst experience of my life, I realised I didn’t trust ANY of those peers to keep this under wrap. I didn’t tell a soul.
I had only called Terie bc she was then dating a lawyer, and I wanted his thoughts on it.
Guess what? She told me she’s busy having a holiday & even tho it was very time sensitive, she told me not to “disturb her” until she’s done with her holiday.
Lucky for me I met a few good & intelligent souls who picked up the pieces with me.
Until today that experience has been very traumatic, & when I face bad behaviour from new peers, I ask myself if that situation happens again, would I trust them?
1) Can they be trusted?
2) will they pick up the pieces with me? Or at least try to help a tiny bit?
Or will they just hang up and say oh.. so sorry..
If i think their answer is “oh so sorry” then my answer to their bad behavior will also be.. “I’m so sorry…. I’m not going to try to keep you too.”