There’s a tweet on Twitter that’s going around saying “Marriage is a scam” because it’s a totally different image from what society has been painting. Here’s my thoughts:
During the pre-marriage period, people would usually imagine all rainbows & unicorns based on their own dreams & exaggerations; but the reality that appears after the marriage most of the time dont correspond with what they've imagined during pre-marriage period. Why?
Because most people expect too much & open their hearts to receiving instead of giving before the marriage itself. It’s not the married life that kills your joy. It’s your expectation & lack of ikhlas. With ikhlas, your smallest deed makes you the happiest. Without ikhlas, even your greatest deed makes u displeased.
No, marriage is not a scam. Marriage is sacred. What is marriage without sacrifice? Both husband & wife need to be less selfish by sacrificing our unnecessary needs & desires; for this sacrifice will increase our value as a Muslim husband/wife, and as a slave of Allah.
One thing we must always remember; the goal of marriage is Jannah. To live in peace and tranquility by following the commandments of Allah. In order to achieve this, “give and take” is a crucial part. Both spouses must learn to cooperate and collaborate. Marriage is teamwork. Manage expectation of love and intention from each other on a daily basis. I pray that Allah makes it easy for all of us.
During the pre-marriage period, people would usually imagine all rainbows & unicorns based on their own dreams & exaggerations; but the reality that appears after the marriage most of the time dont correspond with what they've imagined during pre-marriage period. Why?
Because most people expect too much & open their hearts to receiving instead of giving before the marriage itself. It’s not the married life that kills your joy. It’s your expectation & lack of ikhlas. With ikhlas, your smallest deed makes you the happiest. Without ikhlas, even your greatest deed makes u displeased.
No, marriage is not a scam. Marriage is sacred. What is marriage without sacrifice? Both husband & wife need to be less selfish by sacrificing our unnecessary needs & desires; for this sacrifice will increase our value as a Muslim husband/wife, and as a slave of Allah.
One thing we must always remember; the goal of marriage is Jannah. To live in peace and tranquility by following the commandments of Allah. In order to achieve this, “give and take” is a crucial part. Both spouses must learn to cooperate and collaborate. Marriage is teamwork. Manage expectation of love and intention from each other on a daily basis. I pray that Allah makes it easy for all of us.