CMV: The Conventional "Waitress Test" is Inadequate For Spotting Bad Relationship Material
If you don't know, the Waitress Test for date says that how your date treats a restaurant server (or other low-paid staff) is how he or she will treat you six months from now. Naturally this also applies to people in the usual diversity categories we all know about, too.
Sound advice, but it has a serious failure point: it focuses only on one narrow aspect of a person, namely economic status. It can't reveal whether a date mistreats people who have personal traits that have little to nothing to do with socio-economic status or diversity category. That requires taking the Waitress Test one step further - how your date treats people with certain traits widely disparaged or belittled by most of society, not because those traits reflect on that person's moral and ethical character, but simply because that person has cringe-worthy or otherwise "uncool" traits.
These traits are being any one (or even all) of the following: weak; timid; poor in social skills, thinking skills, or practical judgment; having odd or even extreme habits, dress, or ways of carrying themselves; lacking “street smarts” or bullshit spotting (i.e., “gullible”); physical or vocal unattractiveness. Probably many others I left off, but you get the idea.
If your date treats even *these* kinds of people with dignity and respect, then he or she is practically assured to treat waitresses likewise, given that the *average* waitress still lacks the unappealing personal habits that the ones I mentioned do. This is what makes my proposed test a much more accurate way to measure the character of your date than the conventional Waitress Test. As such, I think this should be adopted as the new conventional dating wisdom for the future.
https://redd.it/e03siw
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If you don't know, the Waitress Test for date says that how your date treats a restaurant server (or other low-paid staff) is how he or she will treat you six months from now. Naturally this also applies to people in the usual diversity categories we all know about, too.
Sound advice, but it has a serious failure point: it focuses only on one narrow aspect of a person, namely economic status. It can't reveal whether a date mistreats people who have personal traits that have little to nothing to do with socio-economic status or diversity category. That requires taking the Waitress Test one step further - how your date treats people with certain traits widely disparaged or belittled by most of society, not because those traits reflect on that person's moral and ethical character, but simply because that person has cringe-worthy or otherwise "uncool" traits.
These traits are being any one (or even all) of the following: weak; timid; poor in social skills, thinking skills, or practical judgment; having odd or even extreme habits, dress, or ways of carrying themselves; lacking “street smarts” or bullshit spotting (i.e., “gullible”); physical or vocal unattractiveness. Probably many others I left off, but you get the idea.
If your date treats even *these* kinds of people with dignity and respect, then he or she is practically assured to treat waitresses likewise, given that the *average* waitress still lacks the unappealing personal habits that the ones I mentioned do. This is what makes my proposed test a much more accurate way to measure the character of your date than the conventional Waitress Test. As such, I think this should be adopted as the new conventional dating wisdom for the future.
https://redd.it/e03siw
@r_changemyview