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#belief

Many people walk through life in a cognitive slumber, blindly following the norms attached to their identity.

-"I’m terrible with directions.”
-“I’m not a morning person.”
-“I’m bad at remembering people’s names.”
-“I’m always late.”
-“I’m not good with technology.”
-“I’m horrible at math.”
. . . and a thousand other variations.

When you have repeated a story to yourself for years, it is easy to slide into these mental grooves and accept them as a fact. In time, you begin to resist certain actions because “that’s not who I am.” There is internal pressure to maintain your self-image and behave in a way that is consistent with your beliefs. You find whatever way you can to avoid contradicting yourself.


♧The more deeply a thought or action is tied to your identity, the more difficult it is to change it. It can feel comfortable to believe what your culture believes (group identity) or to do what upholds your self-image (personal identity), even if it’s wrong.

-from Atomic habits

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#No

Just learn to say no. Learn to stand your ground, I can tell you that Yes has ruined more people's lives than No has ever has.

People saying Yes to getting into relationships they shouldn't be in, people saying Yes to staring businesses that they shouldn't... many times it ends in breakdowns and suffering.

♧Learning to say "no" will be one of the most invaluable skills that you can learn from a young age.


-Iman Gadhzi


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#behaviors🕸

Your behaviors are usually a reflection of your identity. What you do is an indication of the type of person you believe that you are—either consciously or nonconsciously.

Once a person believes in a particular aspect of their identity, they are more likely to act in alignment with that belief. For example, people who identified as “being a voter” were more likely to vote than those who simply claimed “voting” was an action they wanted to perform. Similarly, the person who incorporates exercise into their identity doesn’t have to convince themselves to train. Doing the right thing is easy.

♧After all, when your behavior and your identity are fully aligned, you are no longer pursuing behavior change. You are simply acting like the type of person you already believe yourself to be.

-from Atomic habits

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#Relationships 🧡

1. When a woman is expressing how she feels, your logic doesn't matter! Acknowledge her feelings first! Don't dismiss it!

2. If she has to provide also, she can't be her most feminine! Women naturally RECIEVE and CREATE!

3. Women just want to feel safe! Not just physically... Emotionally, Mentally AND Financially! Your The Pole! She's The Flag!

4. If she loses respect for you, she loses connection w you!

5. Sometimes she doesn't need your feedback! Just listen!

♧ And it takes a man in his highest, most MASCULINE & FEMININE energy to show up for himself first to show up to his partner!

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