بســـم اللــه الرحــمــن الـرحـــيــم
▪️Ruling on a son marrying without his mother’s consent▪️
Answered by: Shaykh ʿAbd al-ʿAzīz bin ʿAbd Allāh bin Bāz (رحمه الله)
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📩 Question:
Questioner:
The questioner says: that she is an Egyptian woman residing in Makkah and is troubled by this problem.
She says: She married a committed young man without his mother’s consent after she had agreed to the engagement. She (the mother) even came to it and asked for it to be blessed. However, she changed her mind, because someone denounced her to her (the mother) and that is why she refused to consummate the marriage and wanted to break off the engagement, but my husband and I got married.
The Shaykh:
Repeat it...repeat it...
Questioner:
She says: She married a committed young man without his mother’s consent after she had agreed to the engagement and even attended and asked for it to be blessed, but in the end she changed her mind. Because someone denounced her to her (the mother), so she refused to consummate the marriage and wanted to break off the engagement, but we got married in the hope that she might change her mind over time.
But four years have passed and my husband has been trying to fix it, but she refuses. Her only request is to divorce me. I now have nearly two children and we live with her. I live with my husband a pleasant life.
What is the ruling on this matter and is my husband considered disobedient?
✏️ Answer:
The Shaykh:
If the marriage is legal (in accordance to the Sharīʿah) then there is no problem with him and he is not disobedient, and she (the mother) must help him get married and not prevent him from marrying. If the wife has nothing wrong with her religion, then she - the mother- has no right to prevent him.
What is meant is that if the marriage is legal and there is nothing wrong with it, then he has done well because of his self-chastity and hastening to what Allāh has legislated. What she must do is repent to Allāh and not prevent him from marrying and not order him to divorce his wife except for a reason.
But if the wife is not pleasing in-terms of her religion, then this is a reason. If the questioner is not pleasing, and she is the wife and his mother wants him to turn away from her because she is not pleasing in-terms of her religion, due to her immorality and sins or her (the mother) accusing her of corruption, then this is a reason. He should obey his mother in that and separate from the wife in whom there is no good, due to her bad deeds.
In brief, marriage is required, and the child must marry even if his parents dissapprove. He must marry and chastise himself, and they must help him. His parents must help him, but if the fiancée is not righteous in her religion, then he must seek someone else and not disobey his parents. Yes.
Questioner: May Allāh reward you with goodness, O eminent Shaykh.
Source:
https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/12649/%D8%AD%D9%83%D9%85-%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%AC-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A7%D8%A8%D9%86-%D8%A8%D8%BA%D9%8A%D8%B1-%D8%B1%D8%B6%D8%A7-%D9%88%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AF%D8%AA%D9%87
