The number 1 thing for confidence that we can do:
Remember that competence builds confidence not praise.
Like telling your kids that they are amazing is not going to make them feel like they are amazing. It is the competence, like helping them develop the skills. And those skills don't have to be that you are like the best star violinist or tennis player. It can be that you know how to cook, or put the dishes away. Just a functioning individual. So we tend to do everything for our kids, even if they are capable of doing it, but then praise them as if that's building the confidence.
(Dr.Aliza Pressman)
Remember that competence builds confidence not praise.
Like telling your kids that they are amazing is not going to make them feel like they are amazing. It is the competence, like helping them develop the skills. And those skills don't have to be that you are like the best star violinist or tennis player. It can be that you know how to cook, or put the dishes away. Just a functioning individual. So we tend to do everything for our kids, even if they are capable of doing it, but then praise them as if that's building the confidence.
(Dr.Aliza Pressman)