The Ukhti

Kembalilah..
Dirimu akan tenang sepanjang jalan menuju redha-Nya..

Semoga kalian menjadi muslimah yang tersingkir dari hawa dunia..

Aku sampaikan satu kisah.

Aku ada jahiliah aku,
aku bersyukur aku jumpa jalan keluar.
Terima kasih ya Allah,
kerana celikkan mata aku yang dahulu buta dengan fatamorgana dunia.

Aku ada ig dulu, yang aku post gambar aku.

Tundukkan pandangan?
How if kau follow ajnabi.
Tutup perhatian?
How if kau post gambar kau.

Susah nak tinggalkan?
Kalau aku boleh, percayalah kau pun boleh.

Aku tak kenal apa itu ikhtilat,
Aku tak kenal macam macam.

Tapi tu dulu,

Sekarang,
Setiap kali aku lihat orang sekeliling aku, aku nampak diri aku yang dulu.

Hati aku,
meronta rasanya nak ajak kepada diri aku yang sekarang.

Sebab aku rasa,
indahnya menjadi sekarang.

Tapi aku sedar,
mereka tak akan faham selagi mereka tak rasa sendiri.

Mereka rasa,
mereka yang sekarang sudah baik. Diuji lagi dengan keasyikan mengejar nama, berlumba raih likes and followers from the post their post.

Dan ya,
Itu juga apa yang aku rasa suatu ketika dulu.

Dan nak tahu?
@anisthegadis ni lah ig personal aku yang dulu.

Siapa sangka? sekarang jadi ig dakwah.
Siapa sangka? ig yang aku gunakan untuk post gambar aku sekarang aku post dakwah.

Jom hijrah, tinggalkan jahiliah 💪

Kisah ahli zuhud dan pengisar gandum

Suatu hari, ada seorang ahli zuhud yang sudah pun berkeluarga, tidak mendapati apa pun yang ingin dimakannya di rumahnya.

Sang suami dengan penuh yakin menyatakan kepada isterinya ; Infaqkanlah (sedekahkanlah) kesemua apa yang ada di rumah ini. Kemudian sang suami pun keluar rumah.

Lalu sang isteri mengumpul semua yang ada, hinggalah apabila dilihatnya pengisar gandum, beliau merasakan bahawa mungkin-mungkin satu masa nanti mereka akan memerlukannya. Jadi isterinya menginfaqkan keseluruhan barang yang ada di rumah itu, kecuali pengisar gandum.

Tiba-tiba setelah itu, ada orang mengetuk pintu. Dikatakan bahawa sejumlah gandum telah diberikan kepada sang suami tadi (seorang syeikh), gandum itu memenuhi ruang rumahnya.

Apabila sang suami balik, beliau bertanya kepada isterinya ;
"Apa yang telah engkau lakukan dengan permintaanku sebelum ini ?"

Isterinya berkata : "Aku telah sedekahkan kesemuanya kecuali pengisar gandum ini, kerana aku risaukan satu masa nanti kita akan perlukannya"

Lantas sang suami menjawab : "Ketahuilah bahawa sekiranya engkau sedekahkan sekali pengisar gandum ini, nescaya rumah ini akan dipenuhi dengan tepung, tetapi engkau menyimpannya (pengisar gandum), lalu kita diuji pula dengan kepenatan menggunakan pengisar gandum ini (untuk menghasilkan tepung)."

- At-Tanwir fi Isqat At-Tadbiir, Ibnu Atha'illah As-Sakandari

Berapa ramai daripada kita yang memerlukan nasihat ini ?

Pada zaman manusia mengejar harta, mengumpul legasi, dan membesarkan poket sendiri, hanya kerana takutkan 'masa depan yang tak menentu', 'harga rumah makin naik', 'kalau tak beli sekarang nanti makin mahal', akhirnya dikhuatiri kita lupa bahawa Tuhan yang menjaga kita sejak sebelum lahir, Dia jugalah yang akan menjaga kita hingga kita meninggalkan dunia ?

Hingga lupa bahawa Dialah yang memberi dan mengambil, pada-Nyalah kunci segala rahsia, kunci segala rezeki, kunci segala ketinggian.

"Dan suruhlah keluargamu dengan solat, dan bersabarlah ke atasnya (tugasan itu). Kami sedikitpun tidak meminta kamu memberi Kami rezeki, kerana Kamilah (hakikatnya) yang memberimu rezeki, dan penghujung yang baik adalah bagi (orang-orang) yang bertaqwa" - Surah Taha

Akhirnya dikhuatiri kita lupa, bahawa kita hidup di dunia ini dengan tugasan tertentu, memikul amanah tertentu, bukan semata-mata menjadi 'hamba' kepada harta, hingga lupa kepada Dia.

"Bukankah Allah itu akan mencukupkan hamba-Nya ?" - Surah Az-Zumar

Wallahua'lam.

Healing from my own trauma, here are a few tips:

1. Take your time. Be patient with yourself. Healing doesn't happen overnight.

2. Live in the moment. Try to let go of thoughts of yesterday or worries for tomorrow. Focus on the now. Stare at the sky if you have to.

 3. Don't try too hard to make sense of what happened to you. Most likely, it doesn't make sense.

4. Remember that accepting that it happened doesn't mean that it was okay. It means you've acknowledged your own story. Now you can heal.

5. Forgiving them is not for them. It's for you. It doesn't mean what they did was okay. It means you no longer allow it to control you.

6. If it gets too hard, cry if you need to. It's okay. Be gentle with yourself. Take care of your soul and let the pain leave you.

7. Own your healing as you've owned your pain. You did not deserve the pain but you do deserve to heal.

Good night! 🌙

The misuse of “only God can judge me” as a defense to justify sins and ultimately hindering self-growth.. is it detrimental?

The phrase itself is true. Only Allah is the final judge and jury. But addressing the Muslim community specifically, 99% of the time it’s used in within the context of being unable to accept advice simply because you’re forced to confront your own shortcomings.

We’ve gotten to a point that religion has become confined to the home. Yes, the relationship between you and God is one that no one can intervene in, but you forget that Islam is not confined to just a set of beliefs, nor should it be privatized. It is a system of beliefs and values and laws that deal with every aspect of life. It’s not something you can leave behind at home.

People often forget that Islam is not "a personal faith," but a communal one. It's not a religion available for privatization.

And when you’re out there, maybe it is unfair that you’re seen as a part of a whole and maybe your shortcomings should not reflect on others, but you forget that we’re on the same team. On the path for Allah, and against shaytaan. It’s not personal.

I have spoken before about adab and the way to advise, but it’s a two way street. Advice should be given in a proper manner, but it should be accepted, or at least listened to, especially if it’s from someone who is sincere and knowledgeable, in a similar manner.

“Only Allah can judge me”

Final judgement is up to him, but Allah has already given us guidelines on what He finds pleasing and displeasing, on how to lead a true and honest life.

“Only Allah can judge me” becomes “I don’t like what you’re saying, I don’t like what you’re telling me, even if it's true."

It's a responsibility upon all of us to advise one another (in a proper manner), and this idea of "unless you're perfect you can't tell me what to do" is completely detrimental.

How exactly are you going to answer to Allah when you tell Him you were aware of the truth but didn't make an effort to change because the vessel in which the message was delivered to you was broken?

The deen's higher than all of us. In shaa Allah we have to learn to balance both ends of this see-saw.

In Islam, your action is the sin (and actually, the desire or thought itself is not a sin until it's acted upon). We care about each other's akhirahs.

"only God can judge me".

You might think that helps you get away with it but actually if God's the one judging me I would be much more scared.

That‘s seriously something to think about.